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10-year-old victim of social bullying in Chicago suburb shines light on this devastating, "undercover" kind of peer cruelty
The four kinds of bullying are Physical, Verbal, Social and Cyber. The most difficult for adults to spot and stop is Social. Also called "covert bullying," it is meant to purposely humiliate the victim and harm his or her social reputation. It can also be carried out behind the victim's back by spreading rumors and making menacing or ridiculing facial expressions. Like all emotional abuse, the wounds and scars are inside where children must identify and express them in order to get help, a task beyond the years of most elementary school students. Sydney's mom, who holds a Masters in Education, knew something was wrong when her 8-year-old daughter came home from the first day of 3rd grade looking sad, but wouldn't talk about it.
SYDNEY IN 3RD GRADE
SYDNEY IN 5TH GRADE
FIRST DAY OF 5TH GRADE
On the 2nd day of 3rd Grade, Sydney called her mom to pick her up. She was crying hysterically and her mom knew this was more than nerves for her usually "EFFERVESCENT, BUBBLY, BRIGHT, SINGING & DANCING GIRL."
Finally, Sydney was able to express that she was being bullied. For several weeks, Sydney was targeted by two girls who stole her things, would not help her in work groups, spread rumors and made sure no one would play with her. The girls made Sydney carry their art bags, fill their water bottles and hold their jackets. Sydney told an NBC Chicago news reporter, “I was afraid if I didn’t hold their stuff something was going to happen to me, so I just did what they told me to do."
"Don't send me to school. I don't want to go. Please homeschool me," Sydney pleaded to her mom.
Despite being continually assured by the school administration of her daughter's peace and safety, the social bullying did not end until her mom hired a civil rights attorney and removed Sydney from school for a week. After these extreme measures, the administration moved Sydney to new classes away from those girls and the bullying stopped. Fourth grade was bully free, but this year, she entered her 5th Grade homeroom shocked to see the same two girls that had bullied her. She felt scared and disappointed to see that promises to keep them away had been broken.
The mom says her daughter once again faced social isolation and emotional abuse. She told a reporter from the "Patch" that the two girls harassed Sydney about why she told on them, and they sought to intimidate her, glaring at her and staring her down.
Already this year, Sydney has missed days of school claiming head aches and stomach aches and being "afraid to go to class." She is not sleeping well and has no appetite.
The school wants to move Sydney again, but her mom feels this time the bullies should be the ones to move, and not uproot their victim again. She discovered there was no paper record on the social bullying of her daughter from 3rd Grade. Sydney had to appear before a judge to advocate for herself at a legal proceeding. Sydney's mom is protesting to reform the way victims and perpetrators of bullying are handled in the district which is bringing lots of news coverage. The mom shields her daughter from cyber-bullying she is receiving from other adults demanding she stop making their community and school look bad and "move your child."
Sydney has been in therapy to help rebuild her confidence, and she says she’s learning to stand up against bullies and stay in school despite her fear.
We asked Sydney's mom what her 10-year-old daughter needs to hear from our Ambassadors, kids and teens across the country, and she said... Sydney would love to hear from LOTS of kids who would LOVE to be her friend. She needs you to tell her that she will get through this and things will get back to normal again!
Normal for Sydney is singing and dancing, especially to her favorite performer Lizzo. She LOVES gymnastics, plays the violin and is in the choir! WOW!
TEACHERS: Play this Youtube Video by our ON-AIR TEEN AMBASSADOR, BRIELLE WITHERS, to teach young students all about SYDNEY!
SYDNEY IN 3RD GRADE
FIRST DAY OF 5TH GRADE
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